As humans live their lives, they went through various events. Some events are pleasant and give them nice memories. But on the other hand, other events are painful and sometimes leave deep wounds inside one's memories.

Some people curse these conditions. I say, that you should be thankful of what ever happens in your life. If you try to look deeper, you can actually find lessons behind every single event that took place in the history of your life. Say for example, you lost the one you love because that person thinks that that person cant be with you. Some might think that it's the end of their lives. Some might curse the condition and grew hatred inside their heart. Some others might be confused and perhaps even be scared of starting relationships. This condition is actually the time for you to reflect and ask yourselves. What can you do to make yourself a better person.

I know it's easy to whine about the conditions you face. But, whining will block you from seeing the actual lesson behind the events in your lives. Whining creates a mental barrier that can actually be bad for your emotional health and also for your self development.

So, what can we do to overcome these conditions?

That one, you have to ask yourselves because the answer depends on your wisdom. If you ask me, I'll say that you have to look around and be thankful first before you do anything else. Why? Sometimes people forget that actually there are people with worse problems compared to what they're going through. Try to be thankful and accept the condition you're facing. Next, you need to have a postive mindset. You need to prioritize in seeing things from the positive sides. I'm not saying that you neglect the negative sides cuz you'll need that negative sides later on in order to reflect. My point is, you need to focus more on the positive sides because that way you can find lessons and views that you cant get when you're seeing the event from negative sides.

I've been through lots of events in my life, both pleasant and painful, and I'm thankful for all those events because those events built me into the person I am now. Am I satisfied with who I am now? The answer would be yes and no. Yes, because I'm a better person compared to who I used to be and I've learned more lessons of life every single day. No, because the only thing constant is change and I need to change to adjust with the conditions of life. That way, I am making myself a better person every single day.

Now, the question is, how do you define a better condition? Well, my friend, the answer lies inside all of you. It depends on how you respect yourselves. It depends on how you value your lives. It depends on what your expectations are. There will never be a fix answer for this question because we, humans, are unique individuals who have unique point of views.

In the end, ask yourselves, do you want to learn and improve? Or would you rather be upset and being left behind?

The answer lies inside all of you and the choice is yours.

Good luck

-EmFeld-

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nice topic bro....

I agree w u, the answer lies inside all of you.. it's mean that u don't hv to look after somebody to gv u the answer coz the true answer is inside your heart and never outside it . so don't u looking the answer outside but looking inside coz it is the true sound if you listen to it

Well-written and nice information you have there dude.

You have some typos that I can't say anything, but laugh, lol.



Fix them up!~

thx for the correction bro

regards

-EmFeld-

Hhhmmm...

Very deep bro, nice thought you have there. You look like old man kidding bro

But for me (old man), never thought about that i just said Thanks God for helping me all the way.

any body know "batangan emas" in english? or what they call for "batangan Emas"

thx

you posted the same post in several threads and the content has no connection whatsoever with the thread. 1st Warn for you. Please dont repeat the same mistake

regards

-EmFeld-

i smell a spam bot. mods alert.

Nice work mod

it's not quite true Bro, sometime someone else's opinion could be good for us to determine our next step. but yes, we are not gonna follow it just like that. we still heve to think deeper.

@Emfeld.. nice share Bro

nice .. so everything depends on our choice

nice post, but it will be rather hard to development your self when it is said and not be done.
but i believe that if we live our life in a good ways, and not push too hard in everythings (theres a limitation for all things you know), and just let our fate to the GOD lead us.

nice info

Because of that in thisliving, did that was best for our self and the other person.so did not emerge regret in afterwards the day.

Although having the person who does wrong to us, sometimes we might not for the revenge.

Because that would the loss was to ourselves.

And he will definitely receive the reply that was appropriate from what has in the implementation

Regards

decons

good thought bro.. the choice is ours

what a rude man ...

no offense bro ...

as what you said bro, human have their right to choose what their want, about his lives,
but sometimes it's different from the fact instead of what their want to be.
For example most of the people wish that they got no more financial problem, social problem, relationship etc
in reality life no one are free from the above problem.
but no hard feeling coz no one is perfect in this odd world.
just relax and face the problem and get the meaning from the problem so it will improve us in the future.
that we call everyday learning about lives.